When a Relationship is Over, Love is not Over

When a relationship is over, I see too many people carry the pain around like a badge of honour, proudly inflicting the offence of one on several others.I think one of the reasons people hurt so much when a relationship ends and start hating on the opposite sex, saying all men/women are the same, shut off their heart completely from love is because they are in denial.

Yes, Someone they loved and cared for hurt them badly, every person will feel sad about that, but the reason they become haters, avoiding love is because they refuse to admit that they contributed to their pain. They saw the signs, they notice he/she wasnt honest or caring enough. They have been treated like a piece of trash way too many times by this person, they have been toyed with, made to feel inferior. Some even know their partner keeps other lovers, their instincts kept sounding the red alarm but they ignored it, kept holding on, hoping they can change that person. They wake up every morning knowing being with this person makes them depress in ways they cant fathom. Their self esteem is on the low but still they stuck around. If they can stop for a moment and accept that they knew the person wasnt right for them and they could have left when they had the chance. If they can accept that they had a role to play in getting their heart broken so badly, they will realise that the next relationship can be better and it makes it easier for them to start afresh again, to open their heart and love again.