Love doesnt hurt people, People hurt People.

Some days ago, I got chatting with a friend of mine and from the conversation, a simple truth dawned on me. Most relationships end because some people want to be dating and single at the same time. They have heard the saying you can't eat your cake and have it, yet they wave it aside, eat it they will and have it they must.  So even though there is someone in their life who they are supposed to share a part of themselves with, they share as it pleases them and hold back as much as they can.

The guy still want to go partying every weekend instead of considering the girlfriend who would like to spend some alone time with him sometimes. The girl still want to go clubbing with those male friends hanging around for a chance to get underneath instead of keeping them at bay and focusing on her man. The guy still want to keep his side chics and when his gf shows concerns she is too emotional and insecured. The girl still want to keep her sugar daddies and when the guy won't have any of such he wants to control her. At the end of the day, the relationship becomes a nightmare. Both parties are stuck in it, they want to stay and yet want to leave, contradicted contradictions and somehow in this confusion someone always get hurt.

People always talk about how love is cruel but I do not think love is the problem. Its people who aint prepared for love that's the problem.

With Acceptance comes Change.

I have come to realize in life there's no shame in admitting your weakness, accepting your wrongs, mistakes and flaws,  admitting how you messed up.

People spend too many years running away from who they are, what they did, how they erred. They try desperately to hold on to an illusion of how perfect they are. So whenever they have to talk about somethings that went wrong in their life, their relationships, friendships, family they are always in the right and the whole world is wrong. They are never wrong. It doesn't matter that they were too selfish, too impatient, too childish, too unforgiving, too stubborn, too hottempered, too inconsiderate . No.. They are just perfect and the universe has hatched an evil plan to bring them down .

They are always quick to give a long list of people who planned to bring them down but failed. The word "enemy" comes to their tongue so easily and anyone who tries to be honest with them is against them.
Truth is Life doesn't work that way.. You deny these things for too long and you wake up one day and realize that your life have been going in circles, no growth, no change. Accepting your mistakes and flaws is not been weak, it's been strong cause with acceptance comes change.

Relationships or Show offs?

Some people's idea of being in love is being able to show off a partner. To them relationship is all about showing off to the world that they have someone cute, intelligent, gorgeous by their side. Now wanting to show off how adorable your partner is, isn't exactly wrong but when that is all relationship is to you, there is a problem. These people would rush into relationships and when things get tough they stick around not cause of love but to preserve the image of perfection they have painted to the outside world. 

The thing is, I may not be a grandma yet but am old enough to say with certainty that such life of pretense holds nothing but pain and misery. Being the best couple is not about looking perfect together. It is about being perfect for each other. Its about sticking around when things are tough because you truly believe in your relationship, in this strange, imperfect person that you share something special with.

Perfect relationship is not that there is nothing about your partner that gets you irritated, upset, angry, but it means there is room for sacrifice, compromise, trust and understanding. It is beyond love itself and definitely in a realm far above show offs. It is a place where two souls meet and realise, this is it, this is where they are meant to be. If there's something better out there, it doesnt matter, cause this right here is just beautiful.