Signs You are in a Bad Relationship

I have come to see that after the first three months in a relationship, things seem to get a little tough this is so because at that stage you begin to get to really know each other. The initial attraction of do no wrong and see no wrong is gradually fading and you are faced with who this person really is, their flaws, your compatibilities. It is easy to get confused here, wondering if this love you feel, this whole attraction is right or just wrong. However if you wish to see clearly, then allow me to guide you through the tell-tale signs that you are in a bad relationship.

1. Non-stop Quarreling

There are no perfect relationships out there and that's ok because there are no perfect people. Relationship is two imperfect persons coming together to make something beautiful. It is not easy..not at all. There must be misunderstandings, angry times, times when you feel misunderstood and frustrated. But when you are always quarreling with your partner, no day passes by without hot exchange of words..then you need to step back a little and ask yourself how long you can keep this up.

2. They Won’t Commit

Haven’t we all be there? They say not all relationships must lead to marriage and that's true, some people come into your life to teach a lesson. Now you should be able to understand this. When someone is in your life to teach a lesson, get to see it for what it is; take the lesson and move on. There is no point dating someone who obviously isn't interested in committing to you. You don't need to be married to someone to commit to them. Commitment should come with love, with the need to make your partner secured. If you are dating a guy or girl who hides your relationship. You sneak over to his house, behind the back of his friends. She wont walk you off when you come visiting cause she don't want her friends to see both of you together. They are still holding on to some other girls or guys, telling everyone who cares to listen that they are still searching, then you really should know it is time to take the lesson and move on.

3. There is Someone Else and They are not Ready to Let Go.

"I wish I had met you first" this is a popular line used by a lover in this category. They talk about how  awesome, beautiful, interesting you are...how much they love you.. They tell you they would never let you go. You want to believe them but you know there is someone else. They say they wish they had met you first and somehow that makes you feel warm inside. So you decide to wait patiently hoping they will let the other one go, but they don’t seem to make any move on that and truth is they would never let them go. Why should they? they have the best of both world...they understand how badly you want to be loved and as long as they keep making you believe they love you, you would never leave. Prove them wrong.

4. Both of You are Getting Physical

It doesn’t matter how much you think you are in love with someone, how many butterflies swim in your stomach when you see them or how happy it feels when the going is good..if when things get bad you guys always end up exchanging fists, punches and blows, then you know it is time to pack up. A relationship like that is toxic..it destroys the body and the mind. It batters your self esteem you begin to believe you can’t be treated any better. You don’t have to accept or tolerate an abusive partner. Leave...walk away..stop thinking too much about whether you can ever meet someone better, there is always someone better out there but you can’t meet them when you are stuck in a bad relationship.

Do you agree? do you know of other signs of being in a bad relationship or have an experience to share? feel free to do that below.